Learning to Conquer Shyness!
By Charles Hopkins
Published 04/26/2006 | Self Improvement
Many people suffer from some sort of shyness. They may fear that their actions will be scrutinized by others, and as a result, they have difficulty facing certain people or specific situations.
However, shyness is a condition that can fairly easily be overcome. In this article, we will look at a few techniques that can help you get rid of your shyness:
1. Try self-affirmation. Every day, as soon as you get out of bed, stand in front of a mirror and say, "I feel great! I feel fantastic!" This technique may seem a little silly at first, but it really helps: after a while, your mind starts to believe what it has repeatedly heard.
2. Make sure that you always look your best. There are no fancy tricks involved here, you just have to follow a few common-sense principles. For example, regularly take a shower, get a haircut, and put on a nice, high-quality suit. Also, make sure that your shoes are always polished! Knowing that you look good will help you build your self-esteem.
3. Acknowledge your shyness. There is nothing wrong with telling other people that you are a little shy --in fact, this can be a wonderful way to break the ice! If people know that you are shy, they will take that fact into account when they interact with you. They will appreciate your honesty, and when they are talking to you, they will understand that you're not impolite or uninterested when, in fact, you're only being shy...
4. Constantly try to improve yourself. Take up a new hobby and acquire new skills, and you may discover that your "worth" has increased --both in your own eyes and in the eyes of others. For example, you could learn a new language to improve your mind, or you could start working out to improve your body. Whatever initiative you take, people will admire you, not only for the results you will achieve, but also for the simple fact that you had the courage to set a step in the right direction!
5. Learn how to deal with rejection. No matter how hard you try, there will always be a few people that won't like or accept you. As the song says, "You can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself." Once you have accepted this fact, you will discover that it does not have to be the end of the world if a person doesn't like you.
To a very large extent, shyness is "all in the mind" --once you start to behave with confidence, you are, in effect, no longer shy!