Relationships and marriages are to be considered as we would our career. This means that each day we have to work on preserving and nurturing love and respect. It can be considered as the most challenging of careers and together with being a parent involves hard work and understanding all day long.
While a job will tire you physically and mentally, a relationship involves an additional emotional stress, which makes issues more difficult. You cannot just move on every time you have a problem, as you can in jobs, relationships can really create emotional upheavals that will affect you deeply.
To avoid too much emotional stress, there are areas in which we can work to make our relationships more carefree and loving. The main problem occurs when our partners become commonplace and our relationship is based more on a comfort union than on real love. Most people neglect to show their love, as they know that the other is there and do not need to make the effort to show their love.
Most of us do not realize how much we care unless issues start arising or we cannot be with that person all of a sudden. If you think that each day is your last day with that person, you will realize how different your behavior and indeed that of your partner is with respect to the everyday routine is was before.
Show your passion and affection by reassuring them on how much you care for them every day. Be generous with your compliments and reassure your partner, as these will add up and will make your partner see how truly special you are too.
Try and be attentive to their needs, and surprise them with your astuteness. In most cases relationships break up because the other person never understands what their partner really needs, even in trivial matters. It is the smaller attentions you can provide every day that will make the difference. You do not need to invent small surprises; all you need to do is make sure you provide small pleasant surprises every day.
While it is true that you should take care of your partner, it is also important that you take care of yourself. Most couples who are in a long lasting relationship and take things for granted, tend to neglect their physical appearance as well as how you react to every day events.
Make sure you communicate regularly with your partner about everything, whether it is pleasant or not. If you communicated often this will help you keep up a better understanding of each other and will prevent any resentment from building up. Listening is also fundamental. What your partner tries to communicate to you is important and you should listen and act too.
Learn to say sorry. Saying sorry is also part of loving someone; if you cannot admit your faults then the other person will judge you as an egoist and will start losing respect. Show you love the other person every time you can and make sure you build a sound relationship built on love and respect.