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How to Prepare a Wedding Toast

By Charles Hopkins Published 12/14/2006 | Marriage

When preparing a wedding toast, there are many ways to give the toast that should reflect sincerity, humor, and honesty. Even if the person giving the toast does not know the couple well, they should include some personal details that will make the toast special. Focusing on the ceremony, the meanings of weddings, and wishing a couple the best in their future, are topics that can be discussed during a wedding toast. Even when a person knows the couple well, it can be frustrating and frightening to give a speech at the wedding in front of a group of people. Practicing beforehand and deciding what should be said are ways to feel prepared to give a great speech. Remember that there will be many speeches made, so giving the best speech is not the goal. Giving a sincere speech that means something to the couple is the goal.

When preparing a wedding toast, a person should make a list of things that want to say. Remembering a funny story or talking about how the couple met can also be used in a wedding toast. Usually, most toasts are about three or four minutes. Plan to tell a few short stories and then offer best wishes to the couple. People who know the couple intimately will find giving a toast very easy. But those who know only one person in the couple may have a difficult time. Talking about the person they know is usually what most people do. Then they wish the couple a successful marriage.

Begin preparing the toast by writing an introduction, then a body, and finally a conclusion. The parts of the speech should follow each other in logical order. This will create continuity and allow people to follow what is being said. While humor is a big part of many wedding speeches, this humor will usually be impromptu rather than planned. Writing humor beforehand may not enhance the speech, but using it during the speech will. Focus on telling a short story and add the humor when it comes.

You can practice giving the toast a few times in order to clean up any words that are difficult to say or that seem out of place. After hearing the toast out loud, people will sometimes reword passages or use better words to describe the couple. It is important to say exactly what a person wants to say without using language that is hard to understand. After practicing a few times alone, practice in front of another person. This will help boost confidence and help with the construction of the toast. Also, if the person knows the couple, they may be able to think of other things to add to the speech.

Giving a wedding toast can be stressful, but having fun and remembering what the toast is about will give a person the courage to stand in front of others and speak about their friends and their happy occasion. This is a nice way to tell people what one thinks about them on their special day.