How To Positively Impact Your Daughters Self Image
By Charles Hopkins
Published 11/28/2007 | Parenting
There is nothing in the world that compares to the life of a modern
teen female. They are constantly bombarded with images of impossibly
thin young women who are taunted as the perfect woman before their
bodies are even finished with the growth cycle. This leads many of them
to try and fit into the mold that has been set before and above them.
If you are a parent with a daughter who is less than happy with her
body, then there are a few things you can do to help her get through
the awkward and confusing years to come. The most important thing you
can do is to be an emotionally supportive parent and be there when she
needs you most. Allowing her to know that she can turn to you when she
feels the need without the fear that you will be judgmental or
trivialize her feelings will go a long way in building a trusting
One of the hang-ups that parents and their teens get caught up in
is the type of clothes that your teen wants to wear. During the teenage
years, clothes are a way for teens to express themselves. If you are
too critical of the clothing she wears, she may get the wrong idea, and
believe that it is her that you disapprove of, and not the clothes.
This does not mean that you have to let your child wear inappropriate
clothing. What it does mean is that when it comes to clothes, if they
are clean and the child is not inappropriately exposed, allow your teen
some leeway in what she would like to wear.
Compromise is very important in any relationship, and you can help
your teen earn this important skill early if you exhibit the
willingness to do so. If you want them to wear a certain type of
clothing to church or other functions, then let your teen wear
something they like when it really isnt an issue.
If you have more than one child, you must be very careful never to
compare one to the other. Remember that we are each different no matter
how closely related we may be. Everything from eating habits to the way
we react to certain circumstances will be different from one another.
If you compare one child to another, you are giving that child a
feeling of not measuring up to her sibling, which is not emotionally
healthy. If your daughter has a tendency to do things you do not allow,
explain it to her in clear and non-judgmental terms instead of saying
anything about (or comparing her to) her siblings.
One of the things that parents are always concerned about is the
food that our children consume. Be aware that your child will go
through eating phases that you may not particularly care for, but it is
completely normal. When it comes to food, the best thing that you can
do is to offer healthy food at mealtime and provide snacks that are not
junk food. Be certain that you maintain a healthy eating regimen as
well, for you can bet that your teen will take notice of your eating
Lastly, be sure to provide your family with plenty of exercise by
scheduling regular family activities. By teaching your teen to stay
active, you can help her stay healthier. Swimming, biking, skating and
tennis are excellent exercise activities. Try to pick some activities
that are available year round so that during the winter months your
family still gets their exercise.