Rebuilding The Lost Intimacy In Your Relationship
By Charles Hopkins
Published 01/2/2008 | Relationships
Sometimes when you are with someone for several years, you may feel the
two of you growing apart. You begin spending less time with each other,
and the magic seems to falter. You sense your relationship is suffering
a bit and you believe both of you aren't on the same wavelength any
longer. You believe the relationship is worthy of preserving, but you
do not know how to span the crevice between you both to reconstruct the
intimacy you want.
If you feel the relationship is worth saving and worthy of the
endeavor to get it to grow, there are a few things you will be able to
do in order to mend the wounds and move ahead jointly as a strong
couple. Let's explore these steps together.
1. Talk things out with one another. Always let the other person
know what your feelings are, what you desire out of life and things you
would like to accomplish. You must remember that your mate cannot read
your mind and will need you to tell them what you need. If they do not
know, how are they going to present you with what you require in the
2. Be open and honest. Do not waste time and effort straining to
play mind games with your mate. You cannot expect them to read between
the lines and know that when you say, "I'm fine", it actually signifies
you are fuming inside. The longer you take to get the truth to rise up,
the longer it will be until you are in a sincerely joyful relationship.
3. Trust each other. Trust is what makes a relationship mature into
a healthy one and permits intimacy to come into play. Without trust, a
relationship will only keep going on a negative course and prevent true
intimacy from becoming a part of your life.
4. Spend some "us" time together as a couple without your family
and friends trailing along with you. In order for a relationship to
thrive, it needs you to spend a little time with each other,
essentially getting to know each other, and what your likes and
Once you feel you know your mate well enough, closeness will follow
a great deal easier when other people are not seeking to get in your
way. And do not believe that just because you have known your mate for
15 years, that you still know what it is they like and do not like;
people change over time and so do their preferences.
5. Go on a romantic holiday together. Pick a place that you will be
able to have some fun together while getting to know your partner a bit
more. A trip can help wipe out strain in a relationship and lets you be
more yourself with your mate.
You can be more at ease with him or her, which collapses the walls
and allows intimacy to break through. Likewise, lovers who took
holidays reported a happier marriage overall than those who had not
been on a trip together in the last 6 years.
6. Be flexible with each other. You will require a little give and
take in your relationship. If you require your mate to go to a play
with you for example, when they are not interested in the activity,
then you ought to be willing to do something with them that you are not
interested in. Give and take is a fabulous way to build intimacy in
Establishing intimacy does not have to be that difficult to
accomplish. As long as both partners work to span the gap, they can
build a sound relationship that will involve a thriving level of
intimacy and compatibility. A relationship that the two of you have put
effort and years into, is a relationship worth another try. Get that
magic back by trying the above suggestions, and make your relationship
new all over again.