Don't Get Mad - Get a Solution
By Charles Hopkins
Published 04/23/2006 | Self Improvement
We all go through periods of adversity and suffering. Some of them are mild and some are life changing. Problems are simply a part of life, and while we can't eliminate adversity, we can learn how to cope with it.
Obstacles do not have to be insurmountable roadblocks on the pathway to success or happiness. They are simply a part of life. Problems are generally an indication that we have something to learn.
When everything is going wrong and the world feels like it is falling apart, anger is normally the first reaction. But this is the worst thing we can do. Losing our temper will rarely achieve the desired result.
More often than not, losing our temper does nothing more than make a bad situation worse. The reality is that we don't really lose our temper, it's more like we turn our temper loose.
Whenever life acts, we respond, and these responses are seldom planned. Reacting on impulse when things go wrong we tend to lash out at anything or anyone that has the misfortune of being close.
This doesn't have to be the case. And our chance of resolving an issue is much greater if we keep from getting angry.
While we may not be responsible for everything that happens to us, we are responsible for how we react.
The mind is a very powerful tool, and if used properly, can be a very strong positive force in times of trouble. But in order for the mind to be its most productive, it must first be calm.
The ability to choose our thoughts, to THINK what we want, is what gives us the power to determine our attitude and perspective when approaching a problem.
If we allow anger, despair and frustration to consume us, it's like a runaway train gathering steam and threatening to derail. The FIRST thing to do is quit feeding the fire. As our initial anger passes, our perspective begins to change.
Once our temper is under control, we begin attracting solutions, rather than allowing anger and frustration to compound our problems.
All of us have an inner voice that talks to us. Pay close attention to this voice because it has the power to make any situation better or worse.
This inner voice is the voice of our subconscious mind and will work for or against us with equal ease. Once anger and frustration are removed from the equation, the subconscious mind is free to help guide us toward a solution if we listen.
Our subconscious mind is the ultimate information filter, but it will provide its most useful solutions only when we are quiet. The subconscious is an obedient and able servant once it knows which direction we want to go.
Don't shy away from problems. Sometimes the best way to inform the subconscious mind that we need a creative solution is to experience frustration in our conscious mind.
By using the conscious mind to define and clarify the problem, we leave it to the subconscious mind to guide our actions in solving it. When the subconscious is jogged by need, visualization or relaxation, it will release back to the conscious mind necessary and helpful information.
Thoughts and emotions act as magnets attracting similar thoughts and emotions.
When we approach our problems with the right attitude and have things in perspective, it will appear as though our problems begin to solve themselves.