Ezilon Forums - What Values are you going to teach your kids?

distortionnn · #1 02-13-2006, 09:54 PM

What kind of values do you think is important to share with your children? I honestly dont know...i am a mother figure to two little boys and I dont know what i should tell them or what i should just let them figure out on there own!

What have you done with your kids...or what do you plan on doing with your kids?

ramona · #2 02-14-2006, 03:34 AM

I plan on instilling (or at least trying to instill) values and morals into my son. I see so many kids today that are rude, don't say "please" or "thank you." I also hope to teach him to be nice - to all people!

Ramona

pup · #3 02-14-2006, 04:00 AM

I am trying to teach my little one about manners and being nice. She is almost 2 so we are working on please, thank you, yes (not yea), asking for help when she needs it, no hitting, no throwing things etc. I also encourage her for the littlest things she does. Like if she attempts to pick up toys without being asked I tell her what a nice job she did picking up toys and make a big fuss out of it. If we are in the grocery store and even if we are only 2 aisles into the store I tell her what a nice job she is doing while mommy gets groceries. I am also teaching her how to make choices. Even the smallest choices are a big deal to her. For instance if there are 3 books in front of her I ask her to chose one and then say that is a great choice you have made. What bothers me the most I think is when kids are unruly in public. Restaurants, stores etc. I know kids get fussy but if that happens take them out of the store. We were at my father-in-laws house, we had been there a while but she started to get into things she wasn't supposed to and we told her no a few times but then when she decided she didn't want to listen we left simple as that. Teaching consequences early I think is good thing. If you don't listen we are leaving. I do not spank my child I don't believe they learn anything good from it. So far so good we rarely have fits and if she does have one we "talk" about it. She doesn't speak in full sentences yet but I think it makes her feel important that I get down to her level and talk to her about what is wrong and what we can do to fix it.

etali · #4 02-14-2006, 11:04 AM

I am not a parent, but I am close to my neice - she is getting very mixed message from her parents - they are divorced, and one is a very traditional 'Be polite, be nice, treat people as you would wish to be treated' person - the other one just doesn't care about anything or anyone.

With messages like that, she is a confused child - kinda 'Give me what I want now, you thick <swear> please!'.

I'm trying to steer her away from being so down on people.

distortionnn · #5 02-14-2006, 04:08 PM

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she is getting very mixed message from her parents - they are divorced, and one is a very traditional 'Be polite, be nice, treat people as you would wish to be treated' person - the other one just doesn't care about anything or anyone

this is exactly what is happening in my house hold....i live with these two boys and i am a mother figure for them but there real mother is still envolved and she is complete trash....i have the feeling she lets them do what ever they want and i think that is not how it should be. She is a worthless mother and that is all i have to say about her!

etali · #6 02-15-2006, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by distortionnn

this is exactly what is happening in my house hold....i live with these two boys and i am a mother figure for them but there real mother is still envolved and she is complete trash....i have the feeling she lets them do what ever they want and i think that is not how it should be. She is a worthless mother and that is all i have to say about her!

How are your children responding to it, are they still good kids or are they picking up on the wrong things?

applexcore · #7 02-15-2006, 01:06 PM

honestly i dont plan on having children on my own so i dont know what values i would teach them, but i do think that distortionnn needs to get those kids out of that house!!!

SAVE THE KIDS!!!

this world needs no more white trash!

Tropical Escape · #8 08-05-2007, 10:10 AM

I'm a firm believer in teaching children manners. Being polite is a key ingredient in being able to get along with society. But I believe showing them they are loved for who they are and helping them build their self confidence is the most important thing a parent can teach. By showing them respect, we teach them to have respect. Trying to understanding and accept their opinions and ideas teaches them to try to understand and accept others.

Children definitely learn best by watching. So be careful what you show yours.