Does long distance dating frighten you? Well you’re not the only one. Long distance relationship is never a good option for any couple. No matter under what circumstances you’ve met your partner, whether on a holiday in another city, or whether you were lovers from high school who got separated in college, or whether its online, the good thing is that you, no doubt, has that soul-to-soul connection, and for that you are willing to make huge sacrifices. One of such sacrifices is to be far away from each other and staying in a long distance relationship. Now all this might make it sound like long distance relationship never works but trust me, no it’s not true because it can work! It just takes a huge amount of commitment towards one another, trust and hard work.
We all have heard of the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” but this is not what the partner wants from a long distance relationship. This kind of relationship lack intimacy, especially physical intimacy, because in times of need, you might not have your partner b your side. Also, jealousy slowly creeps into your relationship whether you accept it or not, because humans are, by nature, skeptical creatures. Couples often wonder what their better half is doing out there.
Honesty and open communication is the key to a successful long distance relationship. Distance gives rise to doubts and misunderstandings. Partners usually use programs like Skype or MSN messenger to call their partners abroad, it is a cheaper alternative and you can have a longer and clear conversation. Also, couples should take out time to set up a calling schedule and stick to it. They must find a common time when they are both free so that the communication remains intact despite the distance.
Physically, all acts of love cannot be done in a long distance dating. However, you can give love letter writing a try. It is fun and more meaningful than any online chat, plus it has a sort of ‘personal’ special touch to it! Do not alienate yourself just because your better half is miles apart, send him gifts, pictures and keep him updated on your plans!
It is best if the couple have a determination of having a future together. Seriousness helps too, if neither of the partners wants to move permanently and settle, the relationship might slowly decay away. Work it out as soon as possible, discuss long term plans with your partner and strive hard to achieve them! Simple steps like using the word “we” while conversing, makes the partner feel confident, secure and it builds the intimacy too. Believe in yourself and work hard until you reach your ultimate goal, be focused and you will conquer all the hurdles of a long distance relationship!