Communication in a Marriage – What they Mean

By Brown Articles Published 12/9/2013 | Relationships

Marriage in itself is a commitment and while getting married, one must pledge to take up certain commitments for life. The community of Christians gives paramount importance to commitment in a marriage. It is one of the most highly valued principles of a marriage and is well acknowledged by people who still believe in marriage and its importance in the basics of the society. Commitment is the most intrinsic part of a marriage and is also included in the fundamental marriage definition that is found in the Holy Bible: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) This decision is presented as a once-and-for-all experience. Jesus said, “Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (Matthew 19:6) The description of marriage in Genesis 2 goes on to say, “The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame.”

The quote from the Bible indicates that commitment is vital incase of a relationship between a man and woman, who desire to be together and have the freedom to be what they want to be. In order to convey our feelings, desires and thoughts openly, we need safety. The ones who seek intimacy and security through cohabitation than through marriage also desire the same essence of the relationship, but fail to realize that such a nebulous commitment cannot fetch them what they truly desire. Most of the married couples are vulnerable and attempt the same mistake. They often expect the sole action of making a vow during marriage to almost magically result in intimacy and close union. Commitment goes much ahead of the vow taken initially, it translates dedication in action.

Commitment, though an essential ingredient of a marriage, has both positive and negative facets associated with it. The positive facet of a commitment lays in your actions, things that you do in order to nurture your marriage- your bond with your partner. This can include planning meals together, going out in the evenings, spending time together etc. But the negative facets of a marriage includes all those activities performed to avoid any the development of a distance in the relationship and also preventing any external forces from separating one from the other. This is likely to include such situations where a partner is not allowed to communicate with his/her close relationships - the opposite gender.

During the period of our ancestors, life wasn’t so tough and therefore there were no huge costs to commitment. But today, commitment is very expensive and requires time and effort as well. It’s not really easy to commit and forget; you must give time to your spouse and make small sacrifices in life to live up to your words. There lies the essence of a marriage. Some people do take the pain in making such sacrifices as a gesture of love and affection towards their spouse without any hard feeling like that they are climbing Mount Everest; they actually value marriage and recognize its importance.

True faith can well be established through action; and it is often said that actions speak louder than words. So, its time to put all your commitments into action in order to preserve the institution of marriage.