Rebuilding The Lost Intimacy In Your Relationship

By Charles Hopkins Published 01/2/2008 | Relationships
Sometimes when you are with someone for several years, you may feel the two of you growing apart. You begin spending less time with each other, and the magic seems to falter. You sense your relationship is suffering a bit and you believe both of you aren't on the same wavelength any longer. You believe the relationship is worthy of preserving, but you do not know how to span the crevice between you both to reconstruct the intimacy you want.

If you feel the relationship is worth saving and worthy of the endeavor to get it to grow, there are a few things you will be able to do in order to mend the wounds and move ahead jointly as a strong couple. Let's explore these steps together.

1. Talk things out with one another. Always let the other person know what your feelings are, what you desire out of life and things you would like to accomplish. You must remember that your mate cannot read your mind and will need you to tell them what you need. If they do not know, how are they going to present you with what you require in the relationship?

2. Be open and honest. Do not waste time and effort straining to play mind games with your mate. You cannot expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, "I'm fine", it actually signifies you are fuming inside. The longer you take to get the truth to rise up, the longer it will be until you are in a sincerely joyful relationship.

3. Trust each other. Trust is what makes a relationship mature into a healthy one and permits intimacy to come into play. Without trust, a relationship will only keep going on a negative course and prevent true intimacy from becoming a part of your life.

4. Spend some "us" time together as a couple without your family and friends trailing along with you. In order for a relationship to thrive, it needs you to spend a little time with each other, essentially getting to know each other, and what your likes and dislikes are.

Once you feel you know your mate well enough, closeness will follow a great deal easier when other people are not seeking to get in your way. And do not believe that just because you have known your mate for 15 years, that you still know what it is they like and do not like; people change over time and so do their preferences.

5. Go on a romantic holiday together. Pick a place that you will be able to have some fun together while getting to know your partner a bit more. A trip can help wipe out strain in a relationship and lets you be more yourself with your mate.

You can be more at ease with him or her, which collapses the walls and allows intimacy to break through. Likewise, lovers who took holidays reported a happier marriage overall than those who had not been on a trip together in the last 6 years.

6. Be flexible with each other. You will require a little give and take in your relationship. If you require your mate to go to a play with you for example, when they are not interested in the activity, then you ought to be willing to do something with them that you are not interested in. Give and take is a fabulous way to build intimacy in your relationship.

Establishing intimacy does not have to be that difficult to accomplish. As long as both partners work to span the gap, they can build a sound relationship that will involve a thriving level of intimacy and compatibility. A relationship that the two of you have put effort and years into, is a relationship worth another try. Get that magic back by trying the above suggestions, and make your relationship new all over again.