The Biggest Obstacle to Success
By Charles Hopkins
Published 01/2/2008 | Spirituality
One of the biggest obstacles to success is the fear of success.
Realizing that the fear of success exists is the first step to
overcoming it. Constantly we see people who excel in almost every
effort that they put forth. Sure makes you wonder why them and not me?
The reason, put shortly, is that they are both focused and fearless.
How could anyone accuse you of fearing success? It is a learned
response. Early in life we learn that, if we are good at something,
we'll most likely be expected to be good at other things. If we become
successful, we'll have to accept all of the responsibilities that go
along with success.
A life example: A disgruntled parent taught his son that, because
of his station in life, he would not amount to much and would never
have very much in life. He taught him not to try to live above the way
that he was raised. The father was judging his son's future by his
dreary reality. He actually programmed his son to expect failure. For
many years, this was the reality that pervaded the son's life. He
feared being successful. He doubted his ability to be successful, and
to compensate for this, he never tried. He knew that he would fail
anyway. He justified his not succeeding.
After several years, this young man decided that he truly wanted
success in his endeavors. He wanted to have things, to go places and to
enjoy life. He did not want to be bound to failure. He realized that
what he actually feared was disapproval. He didn't want his father's
disapproval or the perceived disapproval of his peers.
He needed to overcome the fear of success and, in order for him to
accomplish that, he had to assess his present life. He needed to look
at every aspect of his life and make necessary changes (physical,
emotional and spiritual changes).
FEAR is "False Experience Appearing Real." To expel his fear, he
needed to focus on the positive thing and ideas that would bring
success to his life. He had to assess his situation and focus on those
parts of his life that needed improvement. He needed to see the
weaknesses but to focus on the remedy. It is a part of the human
frailty to focus on the weaknesses only.
He needed to focus on the positive dimensions of his being, the
things that he could do well. He, of course, had to notice the areas in
which he was weak but to focus on strengthening those areas. When he
realized that he could take every weakness in his life and turn each
one into a positive strength, he started on his road to success. He
discovered a singular truth that changed his perception of his life.
When he acknowledged and understood one particular Biblical truth, he
began his positive journey toward every success in his life. When he
understood that he could LITERALLY take each one of his weaknesses and
give them to God, he, at that very point, had God's strength to carry
His first step was to realize that he is a person of infinite
value. He is important. He is loved. God showed him this. When he
changed his perception of his worth, his value to God, he began to
realize that, with Him, everything is possible, even success for him.