Relationships are everything…simply because they are all\nthat exist. Nothing has meaning until you decide how it relates to you or how\nyou relate to it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is the process of making these associations that will\ndetermine the outcome of our experiences in life. We are creatures of love that\nhave thrust ourselves into what appears to be a world of hate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
We once knew there was only one form of love, but now the\ninfluence of fear and separation has provided us with the perception that love\ncan exist on several levels. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The current levels of love are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Eros love<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It is known as ‘erotic love’, is based on strong romantic\nfeelings towards another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Philos love <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A love based on the friendship between two people who share a mutual, ‘give-and-take’ relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n An unconditional love that is always giving and impossible to take or be a taker. It devotes total commitment to seek your highest best no matter how anyone may respond. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This form of love is totally selfless and does not change\nwhether the love given is returned or not. This is the original and only true\nform of love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What Agape Love is all\nAbout <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love asks for nothing and gives everything….simply\nbecause we are the children of agape love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The description of ‘Agape Love’ that is accepted by most beliefs as the love that God provides, is identical to how his love is described throughout “A Course in Miracles”, which is founded upon the primary principle that God’s love for us has never allowed him to even begin to see us differently, regardless of what we may have done or believed we have done. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Course is repeatedly clear how God never takes and only\ngives, which is how creation works since God creates by extending himself…as\nhe also extended himself into what has come to be known as us, the Son of God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n God never takes…and since we are created in his\nlikeness…with his same method of thinking and being, our true selves (not\nthese ego shrouded human shells) also know this is true. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape Love and True Giving\n<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n We inherently know that it is never better to take or\nrequire that somebody give. Giving is natural and never includes loss of any\nkind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n True giving is like creation in that you do not lose what\nyou give, but you extend that thing and it grows larger as you give it, or\nshare it…like sharing a story or experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n True giving is rarely experienced on a physical level since we perceive the thing as missing once it is given. On a physical level, you believe you have less after you give or that you have more when you receive it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As you can see, this physical world has nothing to do with\nagape love since this world is based upon taking and having more or upon losing\nand having less. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is based upon giving through sharing, and knowing you already have everything and has nothing to lose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape Love and Oneness<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love acknowledges that we are all connected, and can only move that thing amongst ourselves,\nbut never outside, so we never lose it. Everything is simply shared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In a spiritual reality, only thoughts of agape love exist.\nNothing else can exist there since everything is in harmony. There is no\nthought of less or loss or sacrifice since all needs are met before they even\nexist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is where the mind of our God exists, and it is from\nhere where he teaches us and speaks to us. Every thought or idea that has truly\noriginated from the mind of God, originated from his center of Agape Love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Since we are no longer centered in agape love, the issue we\nhave while forming relationships is that we tend to severely limit the capacity\nof the relationship to what we can get from the other or what we think the\nother wants to take from us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This form of relationship stems from “Philos” love which indicates you share like-mindedness (eg. if you agree with me, I will love you). <\/p>\n\n\n\n A Philos love relationship is a mutual, “give-and-take” relationship that ends the moment one side either does not get what they want or is asked for something they do not wish to give.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our confusion on the purpose of love relationships is often\nthen applied to how we think God relates to us, where we imagine that God only\nloves us when we please him, or that God will only walk with us if we\nacknowledge him, or that God will only extend his hand and carry us back to him\nin heaven if we agree with what we think he demands from us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In doing this, we have created a Philos love relationship with God which is totally at odds with his agape love since agape love only gives and never takes, and it is void of any necessary condition. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Having built walls between ourselves and our creator, we\nhave distanced ourselves from sensing God’s love and the world we see around us\nis a reflection of living without real love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This environment breeds calamity and destruction since that is the result of life-based upon fear instead of love. If accepting perfect love can cast out fear, then likewise, accepting fear removes our ability to sense perfect love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fortunately, our creator views any problem or tragic moment as an opportunity to reach into our hearts and provide a reason for the change. <\/p>\n\n\n\n No matter what loss appears to have occurred, he is not\nangry or upset at who we think is at fault because he knows nothing has been\nlost. Since material things have no eternal value, they do not matter at all to\nhim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In addition, any person you believe has died is still safe\nin spirit form, and since God exists spiritually, he does not sense the loss of\nthis being and therefore has no reason to be upset at anyone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n His only thought is to help us see that life can be\nhappier… life can be fuller… it is better to be kind… it is better to be\nloving, and then our time down here will become a focus on preparing ourselves\nto return to our creator. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Regardless of what happens here, He has not and never will\nlose one of us because we are created eternal spirits, just like him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Jesus proved when he rose again that you can kill the body, but the spirit remains, untouched, and unaffected by anything that happens while here in this physical world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The 7 Characteristics of Agape\nlove<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is seeing the answer and sharing that with\nwhoever is seeing or experiencing the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Giving to others by sharing is the basis of agape love. Sharing is caring, and caring is the true definition of God’s love for humanity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Patient and judges not<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is never judgmental and is eternally patient with\nanything that must be learned. It’s not quickly frustrated with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It endures all things, suffereth long, and does not consider the merits or performance of the person receiving the love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Demands not<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is total without demands or requirements. The affection involved in the love of God has no requirements, and therefore demands nothing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It demands no sacrifice. It is known for what it offers, not what it demands from other people. Agape love neither controls nor demands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Rejoiceth in the truth<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is total truth in that it does not change, no matter what appears to change around it. The love of God delights when people learn and follow the truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. Knows no time<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love knows not of time since time does not exist in heaven. It is the love of the soul and human goodness. It isn’t similar to the natural love produced by ordinary people with sinful nature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. Kind and envieth not<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is kind in actions and attitude; it is not\njealous in any form. The terms for agape love necessarily extends from the love\nof God for humans to human reciprocal love for God, then to love of one’s\nfellow man<\/p>\n\n\n\n Therefore, it takes pleasure in the accomplishments and blessings of others, and rejoiceth at the success of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. It is unconditional<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love is unconditional forgiveness for any event\nbecause agape love transcends the concept of needing forgiveness, in that, it\nknows we are simply misguided and therefore our actions are not held against us\nin the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Like frightened children running through a dark forest, we act irrationally and do things out of fear and panic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Agape love knows this and\nseeks only to help us resolve our fears so that we can see clearly once again\nand return to full communication with our creator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nothing physical matters, nothing can be lost. Nothing can\nbe taken. Nothing needs to be given. In our true form, we know this, but right\nnow we can only recite the words…but we don’t really believe them…and\nthat’s why we are here. <\/p>\n\n\n\n We are in a place where we believe we have been removed from\nagape love and have written books about a god who does not behave as though he\nis agape love, but this is not so. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The closest our reality can be described here is to think of\nthis as a collective dream on a universal scale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n We, the Son of God, attempted to perform something separate\nfrom our creator and this is not possible, so instead, this action created a\nplace… a dream, where Gods agape love does not seem to exist…and this is a\nhorrific thought and thus our lives have been horrific.<\/p>\n\n\n\n God has sent the Holy Spirit to help awaken us and to help us see that this world is upside down and totally backward in thinking. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This world teaches taking, but God teaches giving. This world teaches sacrifice and guilt. God teaches you to have nothing to lose so there is nothing to sacrifice and therefore nothing to make others feel guilty about. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This world teaches that fear is necessary to survive, but\nGod teaches that love casts out fear and that we will only truly live when we\ncast out our fear and embrace agape love once again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Every lesson, teaching or guideline that ever truly came\nfrom God, can only originate from the unchangeable spirit of his unconditional\nlove and endless patience, and his truths, or love, can speak of nothing else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n We do know the truth when we hear it because God created us\nin his image; therefore, we too are agape love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Once we learn to really embrace this, we will remember who\nwe really are and then we’ll wake up to see our creator right where he always\nhas been….everywhere…above us, beside us, below us, within us, and everywhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n David Nelmes – David considers it a wonderful blessing that\nhis insight and writings can provide opportunities for those around him to see\nthings from perspectives they had not considered before. <\/p>\n\n\n\n He pursues God’s truths and is open and willing to see what God would have him see. He invites you to join him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n His influences consist of truly being open to seeing and\napplying the truths he has discovered through life and through both the\n“Bible” and “A Course in Miracles”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n