Getting nervous because you are going out on the first date? Well, you better congratulate yourself for accomplishing the harder part of the business that is, approaching the person you admire and inviting him or her to a date.
Regardless of your age or social station, a first date is always an occasion for allowing butterflies play in your stomach.
The uncertainty of the whole affair makes it really nerve-wracking. But with little preparation, your first date can prove to be immense success in the sense that you may start planning for the second meeting on the spot.
Here we offer a few tips to help you sail smoothly through your first date advising on the dating etiquettes, where to go and how to present yourself.
But the ground rule is; never get tensed about the issues like whether or not your date will like you or how the person with whom you might have chatted on internet or talked over telephone is going to be and so on.
Just be yourself and let your brain rule over your heart so that you can rightly assess the person. The rule of the thumb is, never fell in love for the sake of getting romantically involved with somebody.
The first date is regarded as a success when at the end both of you decide to continue the relationship for a second date.
Before starting on a date, let this purpose guide you through your conversations. The activities like movies are generally not recommended as the place for the first date.
First date is one that helps both of you to judge critically if there is any future in the relationship at all.
So, come with some preparation on any topic, to encourage a free flow of chat. This will not only reduce the stress involved with first time dating, it will also help both of you get to know each other.
A casual planning of what you will be discussing on proves to be particularly helpful, when one party is slightly non- communicative and expects the ice to be broken by the other one.
Well, conversation is a key for an interesting date. But how to make the conversation romantic without making it too personal?
Well, that is by talking on some topic that interests both you and your date. Trigger off the conversation on hobby, then go on to find if you share some common interest.
Suppose both of you are animal lovers and you instantly get your favorite topic to go on. You can also try to find out if both of you subscribe to some common value or support some common cause.
Even if you do not share some common values or causes, they provide you wonderful topic to weave your conversation and if you are careful enough this dialogue will tell many things of the personality of your date.
And if you find any common interest, it will immediately connect you to some common thoughts that hold great significance in both of your lives.
If you are out on a lunch, starting the conversation over food is a wonderful option, as to what is her favorite food, how does she like cooking and so on.
The most recommended place for the first date is going for lunch. There are several reason for this.
Lunch usually does not last for more than two hours and it is a span that can be tolerated even if you do not like the person much.
But suppose the things turned out to be really interesting, then you can easily stretch the meeting to another one hour or so by going for some post lunch activity.
Even if for some reason you have opted for a dinner, then head out to well lit and crowded restaurants instead of dimly lit ones, that create an overtly romantic ambience, where it would be difficult for two individuals who barely know each other to continue with the conversation.
Always come to your first date with an exit policy well chalked out in your mind. The best way is to take a close friend in confidence and ask him to call you on your mobile after suppose half an hour.
If the things go smooth just assure him or if the things turn out to be too intolerable, just make the phone call an excuse to leave.
Being positive is the key to become successful in you first date. Also be observant and concentrate on whatever he or she is saying.
Even if this very meeting does not lead to a second date, do not get disheartened. Make sure you are at your best self while meeting with the stranger.
She may not find in you the prince of her dream, but she would always remember what a fabulous date you had been. This first date will boost up your confidence and prepare you for the future.