The foundation of every relationship lies in trust.
What would happen then when that very trust which is the essence of commitment results in compromise? Such is the pain of betrayal.
It strikes a dagger to our very hearts, as betrayal from the person who holds most dear is something that can scare us. Yet, it remains that one thing which we dare not expect.
Suspecting our partners to be cheating on us can make us lose an essential component of our lives: peace of mind.
We’ll end up spending countless sleepless nights thinking and fearing the worst. All we need during those times is a guarantee of a sign.
Whether it is good or bad, it should be better than having to waste countless hours drowning in a sea of uncertainty.
Hence, ten notable signs that could tell you when your lover is cheating on your relationship.
- Over protect the phone?
Is he/she overprotective about his/her mobile phone? Cheating is not difficultin this day and age of modern technology.
Fortunately, or unfortunately, it is also easy to catch someone using the same technology that facilitates the betrayal.
New generation mobile phones these days do have logs that record the numbers we call and the numbers that contact us.
Also, text messaging is becoming very popular these days. It is also straightforward to discover concrete proof of treacherous affections by checking the SMS inbox of most phones.
Usually, when a person cheats, he or she will always hold on to his or her phone at all times.
The idea of clutching the phone is because such a person would not want the partner to catch him/her.
- Are you getting lesser attention?
Has there been a drastic reduction in the time you spend together?The body has its limitations.
If he/she is all gung ho with the other party, then, there are higher expectations that he/she will be too tired to give you the attention you expect.
While this may not be true in some cases, there is a higher possibility that cheating is involved.
- A sudden decrease in affection?
Has there been drastic reduction in the amount of affection he or she shows you?Simple caresses and gentle kisses that diminish in frequency can be quite telling of a wandering heart.
While there might be other causes why it is so, such as poor financial state, ill health and so on, in the absence of that, cheating is likely to be the case.
And you will start to recognize such acts when his or her attention and affection begins to dwindle, and which you couldn’t place what prompted that.
Well, all it might merely mean is that your partner has now shifted the attention to someone else and showers the person with affection too.
- Are there more lies than you can count?
Is he/she usually gone for days under the guise of a business trip or meeting with friends, when he/she never used to pursue such affairs?
It is possible the he or she is busy in an affair of another variety, and he/she is merely using seemingly valid reasons as excuses.
A cheating lover can lie and disguise under the pretense of going for a trip, working extra time at the office, and more.
Has there been many times he or she tells little lies? Little lies beget more significant lies, and sometimes, small lies conceal even more dastardly lies.
Well, as the famous saying goes, that, “All Cheaters are Liars”.They lie because that is their only tool to forgive themselves.
A lie is a lie. Treat it seriously. Once discovered, prepare yourself to unveil more skeletons inthe closet.
- Frequent missing of important dates?
Does he/she miss important dates which he/she never used to forget? The human mind also has its limits.
Your partner or lover can miss any other day but actual dates. It could be your anniversary, a particular date, a nice cocktail party and so on.
Well, missing an important date may not always be a problem as something unexpected might come up.
But it becomes suspicious and can be a cause for concern to you when it occurs frequently.
And that could happen if the focus is on someone else, which can make him/her keep the memories you guys share at the backseat.
- Are we not calling at the right time?
Does he/she fail to call you at appropriate times? It is quite difficult to sneak in a call or some form of communication when he/she is with someone else, right?
And the call back would take ages, probably when he/she is through with the new catch.
Do not fall for it, when he/she says he’s busy and can’t call, but may only call back when the coast is clear.
Your lover chooses text message as a means of communication over calling, well the excuses may be genuine.
Or it could only be a way to show he/she is cheating and trying to avoid you interfering.
- Avoid calls in your presence?
In the same light, do you often catch them sneaking out during a date to place a call?
Whenever you make inquiry about them, theywould just reason out that it is a call for the boss or some friends?
These calls can also, can be quite telling, especially when they do not show such behavior in the past.
- Do you devote extra period on the internet?
Internet affairs are growing in numbers in this day and age. If your lover is spending more time in cyberspace than expected, be wary.
Chances are, they are exchanging some correspondence with a person they are interested in.
And if indeed, they start to safeguard the phone more than they used to, then it is a red flag.
There is definitely, something he doesn’t want you to see.
- Suddenly needs more space?
Do you notice that he or she shows little anger each time you inquire about their day?
Do they all of a sudden make enormous problem on their desire for a private space, which obviously has not been the case?
They may be positioning themselves to get some space to be able to pursue an affair with another.
- Are you getting lots of gifts?
Everyone loves gifts, and when you receive such from your partner, it becomes a thing of joy and appreciation.
And irrespective of what kind of gift it is, you will always be glad to have them. But doubts seems to set in when you start to receive gift more than usual.
Well getting a gift at festive periods or select dates like anniversaries is quite understandable, but when you stay receiving them often and on. On odd occasions, then it’s a concern.
Most cheating lovers or partners use those gifts to cover their tracks, and then try to sway you up your feet in happiness that their guilt is justified.
When this starts happening, then you have to take your time to see things as it is.
Obviously, these indications can be as simple as personality quirks that everyone has to handle as it partains our partners.
What makes them dangerous signs is when they start to manifest suddenly, whereas they never even manifested themselves before.
Such an immediate shift in personality can be the result of a cheating heart.